Where Do Babies Come From?

The Truth Shocked Me

Where do babies come from? This was one of my most recurring questions growing up. And when I saw the reaction to it—the laughter, the discomfort, and most importantly, never getting an answer I actually understood—it only made me more curious about the origin of life.

When I finally did find out, I was shocked. But I was even more curious. I had so many questions. I even thought a family with two children meant the parents had “done it” twice. Six children? “Wow, they must really love it!” I honestly believed sex automatically led to pregnancy.

I had no idea it could be done for fun.

Catholic School Sex Ed

Of course, I know differently now. But back then, I went to a Catholic school, so my sex education was minimal, to say the least. Some classes were even taught by nuns—can you believe that? What did they know about sex anyway?

I remember getting a letter to take home to my parents asking for permission for the one-hour class called Growing Up. It focused on puberty and where babies come from. I was around eleven, and once I learned those answers, I also learned not to ask that question ever again. I had understood the taboo.

Judy Blume to the Rescue

At the same time, everyone at my school was reading Forever by Judy Blume. To this day, I think it’s one of the best books ever written about growing up. It answered the questions we were too embarrassed to ask: about sex, erections, and whether it hurts the first time.

I even wondered, “Why do people moan during sex—is it painful?” Later, of course, I discovered it was about pleasure.

More! Magazine: The Controversial Teacher

In 1990s UK, More! magazine wasn’t just a glossy weekly—it was revolutionary. Its infamous feature, Position of the Fortnight, showed sexual positions with difficulty ratings and cheeky commentary. For a curious teen like me, it was like secret homework.

Unlike my Catholic school, More! covered what no one else would: orgasms, contraception, masturbation, and female desire. Parents hated it, schools condemned it, and newsagents often hid it on the top shelf.

For me, it was more than scandal—it was education. It filled the gaps in my sex ed, sparked my curiosity, and shaped my journey to becoming a sex educator. Some positions were impractical, sure—but the lessons about exploration, consent, and desire were priceless.

First Times and Family Planning

When I finally lost my virginity, I went straight to the Family Planning Clinic, stocked up on free condoms, and read every leaflet I could find. My curiosity about sex was insatiable. I couldn’t believe my friends weren’t as fascinated. To me, this was the meaning of life—how could you not be curious about it?

And then, sex became not just fascinating—it became the most intense experience I’d ever had. I wanted to know more: how to explore my body, how to pleasure my partners, and how to really understand desire.

Pre-Internet Curiosity

This was all before smartphones and Wi-Fi. Today, people have access to so much information—but not all of it is reliable. Many rely on porn for their education, which can be dangerous. Porn was never part of mine, and I still don’t agree with the concept of so-called “ethical porn” - but that’s a topic for another article.

Becoming a Sex Educator

My passion for sex education grew so strong that I became a sex educator myself. I started my blog in 2009, and since then, I’ve reviewed over a thousand products, designed dozens, and helped people on their journey to their first orgasm. I even offer consulting—like a personal pleasure shopper. Sex toys aren’t just products; they’re experiences.

Back to School, Back to Learning

As you go back to school, university, or any learning journey, don’t forget your sex education. Just because you know where babies come from doesn’t mean you know much about intimacy. There’s always something to learn about yourself and your partner.

Beducated: A New Kind of Curriculum

One thing that has helped me is a platform called Beducated. It’s like Udemy for sexual wellness. I have a course there myself, and I’ve taken courses with a partner—like Yoni and Lingam massage—which have been transformative.

Beducated offers a wide range of courses designed to help people explore sexuality in a safe, informed, and empowering way. Topics include:

• Yoni and Lingam massage – learning touch techniques that enhance connection and pleasure
  

• Self-pleasure and sexual wellness – exploring your body and understanding what feels good
  

• Communication and consent – building healthy conversations about boundaries and desires
  

• Intimacy and connection – deepening emotional and physical closeness with partners
  

• Tantra and slow sex – practices for mindful, prolonged experiences
  

• Kinks and alternative practices – safe exploration of diverse sexual expressions

  

  
  

What’s remarkable about Beducated is that sexuality is treated as a deeply personal expression. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach; courses respect different orientations, preferences, and comfort levels. Whether you’re curious about exploring new ways to touch, understanding your own desires, or enhancing intimacy with a partner, there’s literally something for everyone.

It’s a place to learn, experiment, and grow—where your journey is fully supported and celebrated.

Sex Education Is Lifelong

Don’t underestimate the importance of this education. It’s not frivolous—many of our life choices are influenced by desire. Approach learning with an open mind and a willingness to discover new ways to connect, explore, and experience intimacy.

If you’re curious about expanding your own sexual literacy, check out Beducated. There’s even free access if you want to try before you buy.

Happy learning!